Well, apparently May is National Foster Care Month. Who knew?
I just found out about 3 seconds ago while perusing someone else’s blog. It’s not like we get big notifications about these things as foster parents.
So, I figured it would be good to try to be more intentional during this month to write about our experiences so far with our little guy.
This has been a tricky thing to do. For confidentiality reasons, we aren’t really allowed to mention his name or post pictures of him online. It’s always a fine line of what we should even write about as well. So, I’m going to attempt to just write about what our honest experience has been.
We still feel passionate about the calling of foster care. We think that way more people should be opening their homes to little kids that need a safe and loving place to call home for a little while or forever.
But, over the last few months we’ve learned a LOT!
We chuckle at how quick we were to judge other foster parents for things they would say. We are WAY more understanding of the wide range of emotions that play into this experience.
Just like probably every fostering situation, our time with D has been filled with awesome experiences, and leveled out with just as many difficult times that have found us sitting on the couch after he goes to bed looking at each other with tears in our eyes trying to figure out why the heck we’re doing this, and where to go from here.
There are still dueling emotions deep in our hearts that say we love him like a son battling the ones that find it incredibly difficult to give him a truly heartfelt hug.
These are emotions that you could never understand without being in this position.
Throughout this month, my hope is to write openly and honestly about OUR experience as foster parents. The good… the bad… and the ugly.
We feel that there needs to be more honest dialogue about what fostering really looks like. It often gets glamorized or completely demonized. Glamorized in hopes of getting more people to sign up and care for the thousands of kids that need a place to stay. You can’t fault people for that. Demonized because people don’t want to feel guilty for not fostering, so they just talk about all the horrible foster homes that just do it for the money.
But, the reality is that it is often more hard than easy. We’re having to realize that this is ok. As Christians in America, we are far to accustomed to following Christ into situations that end up being pretty easy. We went into this fostering process knowing that Christ calls his followers to care for the orphan, but in the back of our mind thinking that it would be easy because we were following God.
We’re now understanding that following Christ is much harder than we have been led to believe. And it’s through the difficult times that we can be sure that we’re exactly where we need to be.
So, hopefully I’ll put a little structure to this series and not just ramble throughout the month about fostering.
Our honest prayer is that each person who reads this blog will be forced to stare the orphan crisis in America directly in the eye and figure out what their role is in caring for those that are truly on the bottom and in need.